Practical Book Review 1:

Adam C. Petersen, D. Minutes.


Presented to

Rev. Mario Garcia, Jr., Ph. Deb., J. G.

Liberty Baptist Theological On;ine seminary

Lynchburg, VA


In Partial completion

Of the requirements for the course

PACO 500 Summary of Pastoral Guidance



Odell Joiner

November, 2011


Petersen, James C. 2007. We have to listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications.

" I noticed that while other avoided grumpy people, all I had to accomplish to reduce their grump-factor was to find out and let all of them tell me their particular stories.... My spouse and i also found that after I paid enough awareness of their personal and personal tirades, they became open to me as well. " (5) The above excerpt from Dr . Peterson's book, Why don't we pay attention better? could be consider while the premise or perhaps purpose pertaining to his composing. Learning how to listen closely, digest the particular other person is articulating, " putting yourself inside their shoes" (understanding), and offering valuable type is his primary objective. At the very onset of Doctor Peterson's book, he use an illustration that gains the interest of the point of view reader. He recall a beginning experience, probably one of his first incurs as a youthful pastor therapies a couple. As he explained, he previously little to find out experience through this arena although he performed have success. Dr . Peterson attributes his success to having the capacity to listen, appreciate, and offer beneficial insight. The angle reader may identify his contentment toward this book simply by his promises of from time to time revisiting his book because source of knowledge, and that he wishes the perspective visitor to utilize the book as a guide (handbook) instead of a standard book on subject matter associated with communication. Dr . Peterson units the fundamentals (according to his beliefs) for effective communication and interaction with others at the start of the book and uses these fundamentals as a type of skeletal framework for the of his work: Part One: The development of Dr . Peterson's " Flat-Brain Theory" (8) Part Two: The use of the Talker-Listener Card (8)

Part 3: Basic Being attentive Techniques (8)

Part 4 - 5: Extended Examples using the Talker-Listening Process (8) Flat-Brain Theory:

The Flat- Head Theory (according to Doctor Peterson) requires into consideration the body as adding to factors in the communication method: the belly, the heart and the mind. The abdomen is linked as the positioning of thoughts. " Healthier heart functions give and receive concerns... " (12) The center " put" everything jointly and the " options and possibilities". (12) And finally, the top functions since the source to get rationalization info. Talker-Listening Procedure:

The Talker-Listening Process establishes the roles in the communication procedure. The " talker" is definitely attributed since the " owner of the problem" and the " listener" role is usually understand and permit the " talker" to talk about their feelings and thoughts. Additionally , Dr . Peterson gives " Talker-Listener Cards" (TLC) which traces and reminds each other (talker and listener) of their duties within the communication process. Following your foundations of " Flat-Brain Theory" and the Talker- Listener Process is established and thoroughly explained, Doctor Peterson " shifts gears" into a even more practical connection methods. Dr . Peterson gives insightful guides and suggestions for the reader to employ in their successful communication procedures. The perspective visitor evaluate and use the strategies outline in his book to produce their own powerful communication tactics and principles regarding guidance others. You

After reading Dr . Peterson's work, I had been amazed and drawn to his work. I used to be able to get pleasure from his job not just since an job for this training course, but a useful tool for foreseeable future study and a...